@Jaicee also, in response to your claims that transwomen attempt suicide at a lower rate than ciswomen:
https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/wp-content/uploads/AFSP-Williams-Suicide-Report-Final.pdf
42% of transwomen attempt suicide, 46% of transmen do, the overall number is 4.6%, you cannot tell me that it's higher for ciswomen than transwomen.

Also, thinking more about it, I'm baffled as to how the term TERF can be compared to the terms bitch, cunt and slut. The latter three refer to the sex of the individual, and those are obviously slurs, however the term TERF is not referring to the sex of the individual, but rather to the person's ideology/beliefs.

I think you both have good arguments about transgender women and their role in feminism.

If I talk to a transgender woman, aka a biological man who identifies himself as a woman and tries to be seen as a woman, I would definitely address her as a woman. Also normally one can not know how many X and Y chromosomes an unknown person has, one can only assume on the basis of their appearance, so transgender women are strongly affected by the social norms for women.

However, transgender women and biological women can not be treated equally in all aspects. Women's sports leagues are a good example, they exist mainly for two reasons:
a) the obvious one, women have less physical strength than men, so they are unable to compete with men in physicaly demanding Sports.
b) in less physical demanding Sports, like chess, women's sports leagues exist to counteract the social and historical disadvanteges women have and to provide an environment in which a healthy competitive scene can develop.(pretty feminist idea if you ask me)

It's debatable if transgender women should be allowed to participate in women's sports leagues, they have better physical conditions than women, even if they take hormones, and even though they have social disadvantages compared to men these are very different and not really comparable to the ones women have.

I actually have a perfect example of point b).
In February of this year, the Canadian Starcraft 2 pro Sasha "Scarlett" Hostyn won a big tournament in Korea tied to the Olympics. A little while later I read an article about the tournament in which the author arguaed that winning that prestigeous tounament wasn't only a huge acomplishment for her but also for all women in e-sports. Scarlett is a transgender woman so i have trouble to understand how she could be a inspiration for biological women.

Former reddit CEO Pao:

"That's implying that I do not consider myself a feminist."

you cannot be a feminist while simultaneously denying the biological basis for being a woman/female for obvious reasons

first off, biological men obviously do not have to contend with the same biological issues women do... so to reject the biological basis you instantly trivialize those issues that are rooted in biology

secondly you essentially erase women as a category since any man at any time can identify as a woman which obviously destroys the distinguishing line between the two

now i don't see how someone can rationally claim to advocate for women while at the same time erasing the boundary between men and women that makes women a distinct group... its absolutely nonsensical and jaicee realises this and that is why she rejects the idea that a biological male can simply become a woman through identifying as one

i don't get this stance...

"If I talk to a transgender woman, aka a biological man who identifies himself as a woman and tries to be seen as a woman, I would definitely address her as a woman."

ok fair enough you accept their identity here

"It's debatable if transgender women should be allowed to participate in women's sports leagues"

but deny their identity here

why is it ok to throw out the biological basis for sex in one instance but not another?

be careful you're drawing awfully close to suggesting that there's a correlation between a man's capacity  for violence and attractiveness when it comes to women and that would be a really misogynist thing to say

because these are very different situations.

If the instance is heavily tied to the physiology of the women body or to being born and raised as a women, women and transgender women have a different view and experiences but there are many cases where it's not important what's between you legs or how your parents raised you.

So I would say feminism isn't a movement for transgender women but they definitely benefit from it, so it's pretty logical for them to be feminists..

btw Feminism is a movement for women but you don't have to be a woman to be a feminist.

Neither he nor the researchers draw this line. In fact, the researchers did not investigate if there is a correlation between a men's capacity for violence and his attractiveness to women.

You've made a logical fallacy. a => b and a => c does not imply b => c.

I wanted to stay out of this but exactly what does she suggest they should do, fire people who can't get laid or buy them prostitutes?

from my perspective he seemed to be implying that so i was warning him, i didn't draw the conclusion

but regardless, why do you from your perspective believe women are more attracted to men who exhibit a greater capacity for strength as this study has demonstrated?

this is ironically for this thread a clear psychological difference between men and women in mate selection