Everyone has had problems with relationships at least one point in there life. Some need others to help them build the confidence to help fix their relationship. This thread is meant to be a place to go if someone is having relationship issues, and is wanting to ask for advice. It could be a simple problem, to a more complex problem. I ask that everyone be respectful in regards to others' problems.

Ugh, the OP seems so terrible. Can anyone help me improve it?

I've noticed a lot of posters in the Virgin thread talked about being shy or socially awkward, and I used to be like that before. Eight years ago, I was shy, afraid and alone with very little connections to the outside world; now, I'm one of the most liked people in the office and kind of romantically linked with three different women (I don't know who to choose!!)

Anyways, most of my high school and half of my college life consisted of me going to class, coming straight home after school and staying home at nights & weekends. I would usually hang out with my friends after school/class if it was homework related like a group project or something, but I would mostly spend my days alone. And if I had to go out shopping, I would go very early in the morning when there wasn't a lot of people on the streets.

Does this sound familiar to you? Slowly but surely, I overcame my shyness; I'm not 100% outgoing like other people, but I do spend my days outside more now.  Here's what I did and advise you to try out.

First of all, start talking to anyone: be it cashiers, salespeople, your barber, etc. If you have school or a job, that will help you out greatly. The more experience you get with talking, the easier it'll become talking to the oppposite sex (or same sex if you swing that way or looking to make some friends!) Secondly, start going out more. You aren't going to find anyone or overcome your fear of being in public places sitting at home watching movies and playing games. I was pretty scared going out, so I started slow. I would leave my house for maybe half an hour and started building up going out for an hour, then two hours, etc. I also started builiding up the times I would go out like going out from early morning, to afternoons and then evenings.

If you aren't satisfied with your curent look, try to improve yourself. You really have nothing to lose at this point right? Get a decent haircut, some nice clothes and start hitting the gym. These things won't instantly give you whatever you desire, but it will boost your confidence and self-esteem which is what you really need. Lastly, don't be afraid of rejection. Sure it sucks the girl you wanted isn't interested, but it isn't the end of the world or anything. At least you gained the courage to ask her out, and you really didn't lose much since you never had her to begin with. Reflect on what you did wrong and move on to the next.