Reply to naruball: (sorry forgot to press quote)
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I respectfully disagree. I dated a smoker and convinced myself that I could help him give up smoking but he never did. He seemed to like the idea at first and he tried a bit, but he never gave up, even after telling him that I hated it and it nearly killed me when I was 2, because both of my parents wouldn't stop smoking in the house. Although he said he loved me, I guess it was too much of an addiction. I 'm pretty sure that it's the same with fat people. They might be willing to make an effort and still have insignificant results. My advice would be to be with someone for who they are and not who you want them to be. And no, you're not shallow, just not attracted to her. Since you both like each other you should be friends instead. |
Well I agree. If you are not attracted to her then it's not a good idea to contiue any further, because this issue will reach out eventually and will cause your relationship to end, or to trouble you and feel bad for feeling like that for someone you care or love.
It is not up to you to help her to lose weight. If her weight problem was a big problem she would lose some weight on her own. Trying to force her to lose weight, so you can be with her is a mistake, since probably she won't give much effort and in the end she will be annoyed with you by forcing her or mentioning that topic all the time.
You are not a bad person or shallow for thinking like that. Actually by asking and trying to figure out if you are shallow proves that you are opened minded and not a bad person. These are tastes, some actually like fat girls.
I personally don't think that i would be comfortable with an obese girlfriend and prefer just to be friends.
