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iBlah on 02 September 2010
chapset said:

pics or salvatore doesn't exi




 

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Hephaestos on 02 September 2010
d21lewis said:
Hephaestos said:

he doesn't need to cheat on his boyfriend... he can bring her to the couple... I mean you say she's good looking and all....

 

and I actualy read Rape instead of Repel in the title...


At first glance, so did I.  I just didn't want to admit it because everyone would look at me funny.

*looks at you funny*


so you actually came here to give advice on that....umh....

*looks at you funny*

 

/stops typing on Iphone and resumes walking behind "someone".

(this is a joke... Iphones don't work on this site...)



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voty2000 on 02 September 2010
sapphi_snake said:
voty2000 said:

The problem isn't paranoia it's cowardice.  Instead of telling the girl the truth and giving her closure in the situation you want to string her along and let her think there is a chance in the future for her to get with your friend. 

I met a girl in 7th grade and we were good friends until we graduated.  She told me before we went to college that if I asked, she would marry me.  I knew I would never marry her and I told her straight up.  I honestly cried because I lost a dear friendship and I missed her and she was hurt.  6 years later she marries another guy and now we are hanging out again.  These situations suck but you have to deal with it and not give her the run around.  A bunch of people in this thread have said to be honest and you ignore those posts.  Man up and take responsibility.

On the contrary, I wanna devise a plan so she doesn't get such an ideea. He most likely will have to lose her as a friend anyways, as it's the best way to get rid of a possible impediment in staying closeted (the impediment being Pam). And are you actually saying that he should tell her he's bi and has a boyfriend???

I'm not a big fan of lying so yes.



lolita on 02 September 2010
NiKKoM said:

this thread is still going on? Where's Trashleg or Lolita when you need them?? and when they get here they better make me a sandwich!


I did reply. It seems everyone's ignoring my posts or skipping over them these days! Sheesh! Oh and hell no sandwich for you. Go make it yourself! >:D



NiKKoM on 02 September 2010
lolita said:
NiKKoM said:

this thread is still going on? Where's Trashleg or Lolita when you need them?? and when they get here they better make me a sandwich!


I did reply. It seems everyone's ignoring my posts or skipping over them these days! Sheesh! Oh and hell no sandwich for you. Go make it yourself! >:D

I'm sorry... I didn't see your post.....  :( *goes away to make himself a sandwich*



 

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sapphi_snake on 02 September 2010
voty2000 said:

I'm not a big fan of lying so yes.

Well then I suppose you're wiling to find Salvatore a new enoturage of friends and potentially give him a place to live in and pay his 6 years of med school. If your not then think of another solution.



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gekkokamen on 02 September 2010
sapphi_snake said:

So I got this bi friend, let's call him Salvatore (gotta protect his identity). He's 19, not out and he has a boyfriend (his first one actually). Just this morning he got an e-mail from a girl (one of his ex-classmates from high school). Now they were friends during high school and he always felt that she had a crush on him.

In her e-mail she told him that she wants to meet and talk to him. He's worried that she may ask him to start dating. Now one can obviously see why this would be a problem. If that's the case he initally intended to tell her that he's already seeing a girl. I pointed out to him that she may ask him who said girl is. He said that he'd tell her that she doesn't know the girl who is his new "girlfriend". Of course I, in my infinite wisdom, pointed out the problem with this: they have common friends, and if she starts asking those friends about his new "girlfriend" everyone's gonna get suspicious about the fact that he's keeping his new "girlfriend" a secret from everybody.

Before he knows it Salvatore could find himself out of the closet and at the mercy of those nasty homophobes. Not to mention his parents will probably freak out. Salvatore says he's not ready to be out yet (he's gonna rely on his parents for financial support during the 6 years of uni as he studies medicine, and he also lives with them as he can't afford a place of his own).

So do you guys have any advice on how he can get rid of this girl without being forced out of the closet? I was thinking he could tell her that he finds her repulsive, or something along the lines. Or he could find some way to make himself repulsive so she'll back off.

Please give your imput (especially any gay/bi guys on this forum who might have went through something similar).

So Salvatore is dating you?



Hephaestos on 02 September 2010
sapphi_snake said:
voty2000 said:

I'm not a big fan of lying so yes.

Well then I suppose you're wiling to find Salvatore a new enoturage of friends and potentially give him a place to live in and pay his 6 years of med school. If your not then think of another solution.

depends, is he cute? I have friends that could be interested.



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voty2000 on 02 September 2010
sapphi_snake said:
voty2000 said:

I'm not a big fan of lying so yes.

Well then I suppose you're wiling to find Salvatore a new enoturage of friends and potentially give him a place to live in and pay his 6 years of med school. If your not then think of another solution.

He'll find new friends at school and if his other friends no longer like him because he is gay then he needs to be rid of them anyway.  He can get student loans to pay for school and a place to live.  Most the people I know had student loans and ended up fine.  Also, quit being over-dramatic.  He's an adult now and should behave as one.  Living a lie is no way to live.



Kasz216 on 02 September 2010
NiKKoM said:

Why doesn't he just say he doesn't like her in that way?

geez...

It would seem like the very simple and logical answer.

Though maybe he does and wants to hold her in reserve as a backup.

There's always just the "I'm not looking for a relationship right now" answer.

Really though... any convoluted schemes past that are just going to make things worse then better... afterall it's just maintaining another lie on top of the already big one he's hiding.

Single lies are hard enough to keep, but when you let them build up... you're just asking for trouble.

Heck, the fact that you guys have concocted the belief that you need to come up with some elaborate lie to handle this problem is already a sign of the foundations breaking.

When the simple truth of "I'm not interested in you romatically" is simple enough and not going to raise the "OMG you're gay! accusations."

It's not like you even need a reason past "I've just never thought of you that way and don't think I can."  or even "I used to think of you like that, but I just don't anymore, I don't think it will come back."

I've used it to turn down women before.  I mean it's not like if your single you have to date the first women that says "Hey, I choose you!"