So I got this bi friend, let's call him Salvatore (gotta protect his identity). He's 19, not out and he has a boyfriend (his first one actually). Just this morning he got an e-mail from a girl (one of his ex-classmates from high school). Now they were friends during high school and he always felt that she had a crush on him.

In her e-mail she told him that she wants to meet and talk to him. He's worried that she may ask him to start dating. Now one can obviously see why this would be a problem. If that's the case he initally intended to tell her that he's already seeing a girl. I pointed out to him that she may ask him who said girl is. He said that he'd tell her that she doesn't know the girl who is his new "girlfriend". Of course I, in my infinite wisdom, pointed out the problem with this: they have common friends, and if she starts asking those friends about his new "girlfriend" everyone's gonna get suspicious about the fact that he's keeping his new "girlfriend" a secret from everybody.

Before he knows it Salvatore could find himself out of the closet and at the mercy of those nasty homophobes. Not to mention his parents will probably freak out. Salvatore says he's not ready to be out yet (he's gonna rely on his parents for financial support during the 6 years of uni as he studies medicine, and he also lives with them as he can't afford a place of his own).

So do you guys have any advice on how he can get rid of this girl without being forced out of the closet? I was thinking he could tell her that he finds her repulsive, or something along the lines. Or he could find some way to make himself repulsive so she'll back off.

Please give your imput (especially any gay/bi guys on this forum who might have went through something similar).

Are you Salvatore by any chance ?

And the truth never hurts :/

Why doesn't he just say he doesn't like her in that way?

geez...

Or just the easiest word ever "No"

Just tell her that he contracted AIDS.

Tell her to make him a sandwich... she'll get the message...

When he first sees her again, ask "Wow, have you put on weight?"

1. LOL, I knew people would think I'm Salvatore, but no, no I'm not.

2. Are you suggesting he tells her he's dating a guy? 'Cause I already said that he doesn't want to come out.

LOL, what if she doesn't take no for an answer? You know that girls just have a problem with that word .

LOL, I actually told him to do something similar, but appearently she has a great figure, so it won't work.