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makingmusic476 on 24 August 2010
dunno001 said:

Hrm... for some reason, my experience has shown me that being gay is more acceptable than being an atheist. Whenever I tell those idiots who push religious crap on you I'm a gay atheist, it's the atheist part they latch on to. And when I came out to my family, my mom reluctantly accepted that I was gay, but still won't see that I'm an atheist. If I were to guess, it has to do with how religion was more important in the older days, and older people, in search for the truth as their days are numbering down, fall into the trap known as religion.

I guess just don't make a big deal about it, but live what you think to be true. Whenever my family does something talking to "god", I'm quiet in respect to their beliefs, but damned if I'm going to be making specific actions.


It's probably because being gay isn't a choice, while being an atheist is.



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Rhonin the wizard on 24 August 2010

Luckily for me my parents aren't overly religious. My mother follows the various dogmas, but she leaves me alone. I'd say they'd accept you for who you are, however, I've seen people to stupid things, especially in the country we live.

I have to ask what do your parents do that makes it so hard to pretend you are religious?



Hephaestos on 24 August 2010
makingmusic476 said:
dunno001 said:

Hrm... for some reason, my experience has shown me that being gay is more acceptable than being an atheist. Whenever I tell those idiots who push religious crap on you I'm a gay atheist, it's the atheist part they latch on to. And when I came out to my family, my mom reluctantly accepted that I was gay, but still won't see that I'm an atheist. If I were to guess, it has to do with how religion was more important in the older days, and older people, in search for the truth as their days are numbering down, fall into the trap known as religion.

I guess just don't make a big deal about it, but live what you think to be true. Whenever my family does something talking to "god", I'm quiet in respect to their beliefs, but damned if I'm going to be making specific actions.


It's probably because being gay isn't a choice, while being an atheist is.

you don't chose your believes either, you just believe or not. If you don't believe, as much as you try, you won't be able to believe in god....

 



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richardhutnik on 24 August 2010
sapphi_snake said:

.. as an atheist. But I'm afraid to tell my parents. It's terrbile! I can't keep living a lie! I can't keep pretending to be someone I'm not! I'm tired of the atheist closet! It's cramp and there's barely enough air to breathe.

But I'm afraid they'll reject me and throw me out. I don't wanna live on the streets. I'll never be able to compete with the professional hobos.It's a tough world out there and I have 0 street cred.

And what if the force me to see a priest and try to "fix" me. What if they take me to some Christian camp where I'm bombarded constantly on how I'm living a sick twisted lifestyle and that I'm gonna burn in hell? What if they try to brainwash me???

Has anyone here had to tell their (very religous) parents that they became atheist/converted to another religion? How did you tell your parents? How did they take it? All advice/stories are welcomed.

I am just curious if you had this much trauma when you gave up Santa. Key is to get on with your life and think on other things.  Do not go out of your way to be disrespectful, but be honest you just don't believe when it comes up.

With myself my parents accepted when I left the Catholic Church.



Coca-Cola on 24 August 2010

Have faith that your parents will accept and love you no matter what.  Tell them what c.s. lewis said, Christians love c.s. lewis.

he said that when young Christians leave the faith, they are actually getting closer to God.  "Mere Christianity"



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NiKKoM on 24 August 2010
richardhutnik said:

I am just curious if you had this much trauma when you gave up Santa.

 


Wait... wut.. what do you mean with that? Whats with Santa?



 

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richardhutnik on 24 August 2010
NiKKoM said:
richardhutnik said:

I am just curious if you had this much trauma when you gave up Santa.

 


Wait... wut.. what do you mean with that? Whats with Santa?


You know there are some people who just aren't Santaists, right?



WessleWoggle on 24 August 2010

You just got to bite the bullet, and say "Fuck Jesus! He can go suck a cock!"

Make sure to say it to everyone in your family.



Badassbab on 24 August 2010

At OP-

I empathise with you as a agnostic who left Islam at the age of 17 (I'm 28 now). I'm from a Bengali Muslim familiy and while not overly religious, my parents still believe in it all and my mother has become more religious as she's gotten older (as in prays more). I don't speak to my father no more but I'm very close to my mother and I don't really want to hurt her feelings by being so blatent about my beliefs though I wish I could. I'm sure she'd still love me no matter what but I know she'd be quite hurt by it all. She kind of knows (my siblings do) but she's in denial about it all.

Once you become an atheist and see the world from a purely logical and scientific point of view, it's very unlikely you'll go back to any religion. If I were you I'd start planning for your future as an independent person who can look after yourself. Start learning to cook, wash and iron your own clothes, clean up after yourself, save your money, do well in education or your workplace. Then you can move out with the money you've saved and the job you have and tell your parents if you want. If they do disown you at least you have your own place and you know you don't need them to survive.






Alderxian on 24 August 2010

I'm kind of in the same situation, just that it's not just my family but my school; both are overly religious. I don't find it that hard to shut up and pretend you are praying while looking down or closing your eyes. I'll keep doing that for now.