assistance would be great and appreciated

You have to utilize the 'HTML' option in the reply boxes and past the embed code from the source.

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when you paste it into the HTML box it should basically look like

< p>embed code< /p>

so i still havent got it to work..you paste the embed code in the html link box then hit update right? if so i only get the broken video like above.

The link above is not the embed code. Its just a link.

When you click the 'HTML' option you'll see a box open. If it does not have it already add an open 'p' and close 'p' tag. Then paste the actual embed code between them. Then click done.

well ive tried your way it still didnt work...

<object width="640" height="385"><param name="movie" value="

This is what the code looks like in the HTML popup window. Notice the 'p' tags.

<p>
<object width="640" height="385">
<param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/YcDFkJWxY1M&amp;hl=en_US&amp;fs=1&amp;" />
<param name="allowFullScreen" value="true" />
<param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always" /><embed type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="640" height="385" src="http://www.youtube.com/v/YcDFkJWxY1M&amp;hl=en_US&amp;fs=1&amp;" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true"></embed>
</object>
</p>