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Esmoreit on 23 February 2010
mrstickball said:
Esmoreit said:
Oh man, that's roughly on the scale of "No More Herpes".

On topic. Go have sex but make it special. Believe me, saving for your weddingnight only to find out that you suck at it, isn't helping the mood.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but this is coming from someone that is not:

  • Married
  • Assumes that waiting till marriage means you'll automatically suck at it

:-

 

Can't some people show restraint anymore? Just because you wait for something doesn't mean it'll be less worthwhile.


And this, coming from someone who is even:

  • a mod anymore.

Really man, what happened?

In any case, I'm not married but I have indirect experience. Either from

  • Familymembers who break up their marriage.
  • Women that were married, but cheated with me.

I just notice a trend. Also, I didn't imply that you automatically suck at it. I said that it would be a shame if you (or your partner for that matter) is lousy at it. Better to know in advance or correct that situation otherwise it's more of an anti-climax instead of your wildest hopes and dreams. Also, I can tell from experience: sex with virgins is not enjoyable.



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mrstickball on 23 February 2010
Esmoreit said:
mrstickball said:
Esmoreit said:
Oh man, that's roughly on the scale of "No More Herpes".

On topic. Go have sex but make it special. Believe me, saving for your weddingnight only to find out that you suck at it, isn't helping the mood.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but this is coming from someone that is not:

  • Married
  • Assumes that waiting till marriage means you'll automatically suck at it

:-

 

Can't some people show restraint anymore? Just because you wait for something doesn't mean it'll be less worthwhile.


And this, coming from someone who is even:

  • a mod anymore.

Really man, what happened?

In any case, I'm not married but I have indirect experience. Either from

  • Familymembers who break up their marriage.
  • Women that were married, but cheated with me.

I just notice a trend. Also, I didn't imply that you automatically suck at it. I said that it would be a shame if you (or your partner for that matter) is lousy at it. Better to know in advance or correct that situation otherwise it's more of an anti-climax instead of your wildest hopes and dreams. Also, I can tell from experience: sex with virgins is not enjoyable.

If you really want to know why I'm not a mod anymore, I'll gladly tell you in a PM. However, I don't know why that has to do with the discussion.

I don't understand the logic behind it being a tragedy if your partner sucks at sexual intercourse. Relationships are far bigger and more encompasing than ones sexual abilities. Furthermore, if you do not experience sex prior to marriage, I fail to see how one would know if the other is not skilled at it, since it would be something new to both parties. Also, I would argue that if both were new to sex, then there would not be any preconcieved opinions or goals in sex, as one isn't experienced and knows exactly what they want and how they want it.

Also, how do you suggest you 'correct the situation'? You make the implication that you should have sex before marriage to know what you want, so you can correct it later with that person. I don't see how that is what would be the case in a comitted relationship: If there is something that is not being met sexually, then if that person loves you, it could be corrected regardless if you are they are experienced.



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KingFate on 23 February 2010
bimmylee said:
KingFate said:
bimmylee said:
Esmoreit said:
 

 

 

Oh, I'm not saying we aren't sexual beings. I totally agree with you on that. But in your proposed hypothetical situation, whichever person is denying their spouse the much-needed sexual release is the one being selfish. If your spouse wants sex, but you may not be in the mood, you make a sacrifice and give them sex anyway. It's still a matter of how willing you are to be selfless in the marriage relationship. Differing sex drives are ultimately irrelevant.

Marriage is not something that you should just "try out" to see if that person is who you will be spending the rest of your life with. That's what dating is for. Once you get married, you've made the choice. Otherwise, marriage is pointless.

See if more marriages were like this divorce would happen much less. Not enough people sacrifice for their spouses' needs.



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Sephiroth357 on 23 February 2010

Canadians don't have sex. So being that I live in Minnesota, sex at 17 is very nice until your penis freezes much like in Canada. So we avoid it during winters.

 

I love Canadians.




trashleg on 24 February 2010

we have the highest teen pregnancy rates in Europe (so i've been told). But we also have a pretty awesome free, fully comprehensive national health service. woo?



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NunedQ on 24 February 2010

do you have a girlfriend, and what relationships have you been in?



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