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| Zkuq said: I think I partially agree about positive reinforcement, although that might also be getting a bit into cultural territory too. At least here in Finland, I don't think there's a strong tradition of providing positive feedback even when it's appropriate, so some corrective action might have been in order. I suspect it's the same in many other places as well, although possibly to a lesser extent. I also have a hunch we might have gone a bit too far with positive feedback and vibes in general, at least at times, but at this point it's really more of a vague hunch for me. Not sure how I feel about your inflated self-esteem claim. I feel like it's probably true for some, but at the same time issues with mental health seem to be on the rise (I'm assuming in the West in general, but don't quote me on that). It feels like we're doing something really unhealthy to have such issues both at the same time. I'm guessing much of that can be attributed exactly to what we've been discussing here, probably alongside some other factors (I especially have some concerns about parenting, possibly largely but not necessarily entirely attributed to social media). Feels like social media is so much worse than tabloids and whatnot, maybe because it's more engaging. You again raise many interesting points, many of which seem like they would be pretty interesting to research in greater depth, if only I had infinite time. |
Inflated self-esteem can be associated with depression, particularly when it is fragile and defensive. Narcissistic personality disorder is another condition where inflated self-esteem masks a fragile self-esteem and can co-occur with depression.
That seems to match the behavior of digging your heels in, refusing to see 'the other side'. Fragile and defensive behavior, unwilling to challenge your own beliefs.
And yeah social media is much worse since it's 'free', always available and endless. Tabloids you have to buy and there's only so much of it. With social media you are the product, competing for your attention, while you pay with your browsing data and your eyes seeing ads. Basically paying with your time.
Yeah if only we had infinite time! Yet we don't and perhaps people should be made aware more about how much their time is worth and stop giving it away for free to their phones.
Anyway my solution to this trap was to restrict myself to a few sites, VGChartz and r/psvr is basically all I follow nowadays. (Apart from ME news) Both slow enough to quickly reach the end of new updates :) (I ditched my phone 15 years ago)
