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pokoko said:

However, your analogy for the first quote still fails.

A)  I HAVE had friends call me by the wrong name but I DID NOT get angry over a mistake and try to make them feel bad for it.

B)  I have never CHANGED my name, demanded that my friends call me by the new name, then blown up at them the first time they called me by the old name.  I'm pretty sure I would be a lot more understanding considering they would be used to calling me by my old name.

Are you saying that YOU would yell at your friend and try to make them feel bad about themselves if they accidently called you by the wrong name?  Because that's the impression I'm getting.  If that's the case then we simply have two different ways of dealing with the world.

The core point of all of what I'm saying is that different people are always going to care about different things. It has nothing to do with what I want, it has nothing to do with how I think the world should be.

There are people who wouldn't care either way if they were misgendered.

There are people who would complain if they got called lady, even out of the people who complain that misgendering doesn't mean anything.

There are people who feel entitled to be called sir, since they served in the military. 

There are apparently an absurd number of people who feel upset when they see someone not standing during the anthem. Which unlike being called the wrong thing, has literally nothing to do with them.

Quantity is also going to affect how much people care about something. One person accidentally calling them the wrong thing, I doubt the vast majority of people would care. Throw in consistency and getting bullied with it, a lot of people who don't think they care would start caring about that.

The fact that you're asking me these things really makes me feel like you got so hung up on one sentence, that you didn't understand what I was saying earlier. 

the-pi-guy said:

Sorry that happened from a genuine mistake.

But frankly this feels kind of shallow to me. People can get upset about literally anything. I've seen people explode far worse, from being asked to tag spoilers. 

Some people are always going to be sensitive about anything.

I would expect more people to be understanding if they believe it to be a genuine mistake.

Last edited by the-pi-guy - on 07 September 2024