I could go on and on, but I try not to think about negatives. I'll just volunteer one.
Talk.
Edit:
Seriously though, it sound like you (OP) and your girl both need to look at the world a little more realistically. And you need to be more of a gentleman. You want to be the big man, in charge, with the girl doing what you want? Lead by example. Don't call her bitch (even behind her back, because that attitude will come out in your voice). Treat her the way you would want to be treated, and then be a little nicer. Treat her the way you would want others (i.e. your kids) to treat her. Never expect anything, only that she isn't abusive to you... and then you will be able to see everything more clearly.
I would cite regulation, but I know you will simply ignore it.
