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Cobretti2 on 28 January 2021
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Machiavellian said:

I believe there is probably this unrealistic expectation that technology will make everything easier and bam without any real effort you find the mate you have been looking for all your life. That is a myth. Instead technology just gives you more opportunities to find a mate but the real work is still meeting, reviewing and choosing the person. That part really does not change and it still takes work when you are dating, hell it still takes a lot of work.

Also with more choices comes the with the higher expectations as well. You meet a very nice, cool mate but she/he is slightly plump. You feel you can do better so hold out for that 8/9 on your scale thus missing out on someone who probably was a great catch.

I agree with this technology does help to meet more people and makes it more convenient, however like you said still have to meet them and go from there.

The one thing I found if you are a guy that isn't one of the best looking rooster's on the market you should not expect from a dating app that a hot chick will agree to meet. Same goes the other way. This is the biggest flaw in online dating, people base everything on first appearance and not what else is on offer. So somehow you need to be able to sell yourself with other things to compensate the physical attraction. If most people are only looking at the physical that still narrows down your chances at dates.

In the real world, you have an advantage in that if you have a great personality and confidence, you can attract those women no matter how you look. Those women on day one may not be thinking of you as a long term partner, but you can work away at it as a friend/acquaintance till they start to like you.

From a dating app you have one shot because effectively you both go in it looking for a connection and if it isn't there give up and move on because you think the pool of fish is much greater to pick from, when in reality it takes a few dates to really get to know someone.

Now as someone else mentioned, beauty is subjective at best. The only advice I can give to people is never judge a girl with make up on, because some of them are miracle workers. They can be a 2/3 without make up and look 8/9/10 when dressed up.  A natural beauty say 5/6/7 is far more pleasing on the eye than seeing a chameleon change before you every day of your life lol. A natural 8/9/10 if you are not one yourself is a challenge and hard work to get one. Doesn't mean you should give up, but at the same time don't dismiss a natural 5/6/7 on a first date as that could be a missed opportunity. Remember beauty fades, so for a long term partner you need someone that can stimulate you mentally or it just won't work long term.