Are genital preferences transphobic?

[DarthMetalliCube]

Alara317 said:
I used to think such things as 'micro-aggressions' and the overbearing use of the term 'transphobic' was just hyperbolic nonsense coming from folks who took shit too seriously, but this thread has helped me realize that, holy shit some people are terrible and those terms (micro-aggressions and transphobic) actually DO need to be brought to light and DO need to be addressed.

It literally takes no effort on your part to refer to a trans woman as 'she', but you still refer to them as 'he' because you don't respect them enough to refer to them with the gender they feel best suits them. Calling a Trans woman 'he' then saying 'he's not a lesbian, he's just a straight dude trying to get lesbian chicks' is not only disrespectful, it's a perfect example of a micro-aggression.

Until just today, I laughed at people who used those terms since I had never actually seen them being used sincerely (honestly, the only examples I ever saw was on South Park). However, reading through even a fraction of this thread made me realize that, yeah, Transphobia is a thing, micro-aggressions are an actual thing, and so many of you really are a part of the problem. What's worse? I know that my speaking out on behalf of those who have been marginalized and disrespected will get me labelled as an SJW. Because of course it will. You know how I easily identify terrible people? Anyone who uses 'sjw' as a pejorative when referring to people who insist that you don't use racist, sexist, or other derogatory terminology.

It really, REALLY shouldn't be too much to ask that you treat others with respect. You wanna know WHY trans folk tend to go a little overboard when insisting you use their proper pronouns or are offended by transphobic language and behaviour? It's not because of the majority, it's because of people like you, people who constantly poke and prod and insult and belittle and deride them. It's because far too many people DO devalue a person's identity through micro-aggressions. I hate that term, but here I am using it because it's appropriate.

Stop being disrespectful. Stop being transphobic. Stop trying to justify what boils down to bigotry. Just stop, grow up, and understand that culture as a whole is leaning towards tolerance and acceptance. Trans folk do not do you any harm by asking to be referred to by their chosen pronouns, so stop insulting them by deliberately mis-gendering them.

Holy shit I didn't know I had to explain this.

Um, I'm not sure what thread you're reading, but I don't think most people here are disrespectful towards trans people, whatsoever.. At least I didn't get that impression from their posts. The issue is that some within the trans community (and others) are being completely disrespectful towards a lesbian cis woman because she has a hard wired attraction to female anatomy and is turned off by a penis. THAT is disrespectful. Unless there's some transphobic post that I missed within this thread here?

Edit: Oh, I see you mean referring to them as their preferred pronouns. Ok, I take it back then for the most part, although I still would have to say you're blowing that issue way out of proportion. If a trans strongly and genuinely sees themselves as a woman, cool. Do they really need that reassurance from people calling them "she"? Don't get me wrong I certainly feel they should be referred to as such, and that should be respective, but to me completely demonizing someone for using the word "he" rather than "she" I feel completely blows things out of proportion and is somewhat closeminded and disrespectful in and of itself. And furthermore as a Libertarian it "triggers" me when people are FORCED to say ANYTHING.

And when did the referral of "he" or "she" become associated with respect or disrespect anyway?

Last edited by DarthMetalliCube - on 25 August 2018