The real problem here is that today's society reinforces a certain behavior in men that is biologically unattractive to women. Women are biologically attracted to alpha males: men who are socially dominant and are able to express themselves with confidence in social situations (ie. football team captains, guys who ride motorcycles, guys who are musicians or artists and are good at expressing themselves, guys who are just fun and aren't afraid to crack jokes around a woman). A guy who can confidently have a conversation with a beautiful woman and tell jokes and be well-adjusted without having any fear of rejection to a woman is the equivalent of a stunning blond to a guy. I am not saying that personal interests, chemistry, values, etc... isn't important on an intellectual level to women, but it is a man's confidence that always forms the basis of sexual attraction in women. Even if you are half and half with some alpha and beta qualities, your girlfriend or wife's attraction to you will always be based on the alpha male traits that you do exhibit.
If you want to figure out how to get with women understand this: alpha males does not equal abuser, it does not mean sexist, and it does not mean treating women disrespectfully. John Wayne was a great example of an alpha male who was also a gentleman. Women will always be attracted to alpha males because there are a 100 million years of evolution backing up why women should be attracted to these kinds of men just like why men find large hips, well-formed breasts and facial symmetry to be attractive. To deny this is to deny reality.
The problem is that society tells men that it is good to be submissive and ashamed of themselves and that they should act more like women (it also tells women to act more like men). Women acting more like men isn't a problem from an attraction point of view since men are mainly biologically attracted to physical features and not so much feminine behavior. Unfortunately, for men who exhibit weak or submissive qualities, their dating prospects become greatly diminished since they are unable to create attraction in the opposite sex which is predominantly based on behavior. The worst part is that most women don't even consciously understand what they are attracted to and most will not admit that they find alpha males attractive since they think it is anti-feminist. As a result, there is very little guidance out there for men who have difficulty creating attraction in women. They can be as polite and kind as they want and even make themselves look as good as they can (including muscles and working out), but their dating success will be very limited if they are not able to exude the confident personality traits that drive women crazy.
The key is to just try to be the best version of yourself and try to cultivate self-confidence in whatever you do. Become a guider, a protector a helper and try to follow your conscience and do what is right. By becoming a good person and following what you know to be right, you will naturally start to become more confident around other people. Women will notice this too. You may never attract a super model, but you are likely to find somebody and it won't be artificial or an act.
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