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To the OP:

When I was 10 years younger, I used to play tennis with a man who was 60 years old. He asked me something. "Are you planning on having children?" I told him I didn't much like being around children, and that I may not have any. He laughed and told me something I still consider a good piece of wisdom. He said, and I'm paraphrasing because it was a long time ago, that all men reach an age in their life where they reflect back at what they've done with their life and what they will leave behind; a legacy of sort. For the majority of men, children is form of legacy, "What they left behind to show the world that they existed;" others go down in history for creating something, or achieving a goal in life, and lastly there are those few who go down in history doing evil deeds. I won't name anyone, but I'm sure you get the picture.

Now, when I talk to my friends, I understand many of the reason why they choose to settle down, or excel at their work, and I can sort of understand the sexual frustration of my male friends who don't have a goal in life but to get laid. I don't know if this will help you or anyone else out there, but It did for me.

I've never been much of a follower, but I'm not as smart, witty, funny, or dedicated of an individual to have an exotic life style, but I understand myself and my weaknesses. I think it's helped come into terms with my life expectancies, and I think that is important for every single male out in this American hypocritical society.