I've been "incel" for years in France, and it is something considered shameful. A man unable to get a woman is considered a failure, a loser. So I always avoided that kind of talks.
And when I arrived in Japan, with mostly other Asian students around me (China, Vietnam...), I became all of a sudden like a mini rockstar at my school and work, with girls asking to take a selfie with me, coming all blushing to ask for my number, and everyone saying "You're so good looking, you can get a girlfriend here anytime you want!". I was shocked and didn't even know what to do about all of that. I consider myself average looking, but I'm short, which is a huge issue in Europe, a lot less in Asia. With the really popular white skin and light hair, it's enough to be considered "beautiful" here, even if it's ridiculous.
But even with that, I was unable to find a girlfriend for months, because I was just unused to the dating world. I then tried online dating, had maybe 70+ matches in a month, met a dozen of girls and I've been dating one for 5 months now.
But I'm still really insecure and shy anytime I talk to an unknown woman, even more if she begins to compliment me. But when I compare with my life in France, first of all I understand now that a couple of women tried to hit on me at that time and I was too stupid to get it, and second I just didn't try anything like here. I'm pretty sure I was "incel" only because of myself. I wasn't a loser because of the lack of results, I had a loser mentality and turned myself like this. I didn't do anything and usually didn't care at all, and sometimes asked myself "Why can't I find a GF?". Stupid. I've never been angry at women because of it, thankfully, I never fell that low.
And it's surely the same thing with all those other losers. It's their own fault. They can hit the gym, start going out, get any social life and meet people, and if they still can't get anyone, they can lower their expectations and start again (I would still be single if I only tried to date idols...). Women want to find a man as much as us, and in a lot of countries you have more women than men. They just won't settle for a guy making himself a loser. And killing them because of it surely won't help, they will just become more and more uneasy around other incels each time.
Existing User Log In
New User Registration
Register for a free account to gain full access to the VGChartz Network and join our thriving community.
