| adisababa said: I want to protect the relationship, sure I want to protect myself from the hysteria and fights that will come out of it too but I don't want to waste so much energy on something I didn't mean or even set out to do. She wouldn't understand because she is a bit conservative and possessive when it comes to relationships and will no doubt take it to bombastic proportions. I've just got to survive until the weekend and during the weekend I'll most definitely stay close to her while we're all out. I know that if she finds out from some other person, I'm probably going to have to pack up and leave for the countryside haha. If I tell her, it's just going to be ugly. Either way, it'll be ugly actually. I kinda don't want her to find out ever, even if we break up, that might be selfish but it'll only bring pain and loss and nothing else. |
So have you talked about boundaries or anything like that? Telling that you were drunk and a girl kissed you, but nothing else happened could be a good way to talk about what is accepted and what is not. You could ask if that was okay and say that you are sorry if you crossed the line by letting the girl kiss you. She could also benefit from it as it might not be that beneficial to be overly jealous or possessive. If you really like your girlfriend then telling the truth is probably the best option, depends on the person of course, but think what she would want.
There are problems in every rellationships and how they are dealt is very important. Avoidance is not often useful, learning to fight and argue in the right way and learning to forgive and say sorry are far more important. Whether she can or cannot forgive is her choice and telling or keeping it a secret is yours. I recommend telling for you and forgiving for her.
Deep down you seem to already know that you need to tell her, so do it and don´t let fear stop you.
