Aziz Ansari Is Guilty. Of Not Being a Mind Reader - NYT

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DonFerrari said:

o_O.Q said:

"Non-verbal cue can be clear, but how would you know if the ones she gave were?"

i don't and i suppose that''s the crux of the argument

Nope, the crux of the argument is innocent until proven guilty and possible false accusation and slander.

o_O.Q said:

"He didn't force himself on her to gratify himself, I mean he stopped as soon as she said NO."

if i remember correctly he then pressured her to give him a blowjob afterwards

Nope, by what is in the OP, after she said no and he stopped, he asked if she would prefer to be dressed an see TV.

 

i was wrong this happened

"Ansari wanted to have sex. She said she remembers him asking again and again, “Where do you want me to fuck you?” while she was still seated on the countertop. She says she found the question tough to answer because she says she didn’t want to fuck him at all.

“I wasn’t really even thinking of that, I didn’t want to be engaged in that with him. But he kept asking, so I said, ‘Next time.’"

and then this

Ansari instructed her to turn around. “He sat back and pointed to his penis and motioned for me to go down on him. And I did. I think I just felt really pressured. It was literally the most unexpected thing I thought would happen at that moment because I told him I was uncomfortable.”

 

so she plainly told him that she was not ready for sex on this date and he continued to pester her until he got a blowjob from her