Aziz Ansari Is Guilty. Of Not Being a Mind Reader - NYT

[DonFerrari]

epicurean said:

DonFerrari said:

You mean her alleged non-verbal signs that he missed while she was doing oral, but on the penetration he stopped when she said a SIMPLE NO?

I'm interested in what people think he did that was so wrong? The worst I can think of is that he missed non-verbal clues, which we don't even know what they were. Or that he didn't ask to start kissing her? What are people mad about, specifically?

They are mad he have a penis but didn't let the girl take command from start to end.

o_O.Q said:

DonFerrari said:

You mean her alleged non-verbal signs that he missed while she was doing oral, but on the penetration he stopped when she said a SIMPLE NO?

i think we can agree that generally non-verbal cues are used with regards to sex

this means that when she expressed non-verbal cues indicating that she didn't want his advances then he should have backed off

instead of doing that he continued anyway, because his personal gratification was more important than this woman's wellbein

I think we can agree we don't know if she really gave the signals and what they were, I think we can agree that when she was clear he stopped, I think we can agree that when you accuse someone of something as bad as rapist you shouldn't be making light use of the term.