Aziz Ansari Is Guilty. Of Not Being a Mind Reader - NYT

[DonFerrari]

Thechalkblock said:

Smartie900 said:
Ansari wasn't good at reading the signals the girl put out. When someone is in a situation where they're deeply uncomfortable and tense, they don't always have the willpower to refuse a request and say 'no'. I can sympathize with the girl and it is understandable that she would want to come out and voice her concerns. However, Ansari doesn't deserve to be vilified for being ignorant on how to read social signals. He expressed regret over the situation privately and seemed to genuinely care about the mental state of the girl. To me, this just seems like a an awkward situation where two people didn't know how to properly communicate with each other.

i completely agree. the biggest reason this situation seemed to occur is both people involved failed to communicate with each other effectively. 

it does bring up questions about what consent is, but also i think more importantly about how to express yourself as well as interpret the feelings of other people.

i think it’s possible that both people could have been drunk, and maybe that’s being left out of the story. i get that feeling from how sloppy the interactions between the two seem to be. 

If both are drunk it is obvious that the men rapped, get up with times.