I bought a TV instead of a game console. Wife won the discussion

[DonFerrari]

Errorist76 said:

RolStoppable said:
Sigh...

In such a situation you have to respond: "Darling, we don't need a TV in the bedroom." - And then you deliver.

Hah...had the same first thoughts but I couldn't deliver ;o)

Age can do that to you.

Kirin_gaming said:

Kay860 said:

You guys are a bunch of noobs. i've been married for 6 years ( i know its not that long) but i have finally figured out how to get what i want. For the first two years, i noticed that my wife dictate everything that i buy for myself. So i decided that every time she ask me what do i want for my bday, xmas, anniversary, etc... I say, "I dont want anything or need anything".

For a whole an entire year, i stop buying stuff for myself. But I will buy her nice gifts on every special occasions. For example, We would go to a store, i will spend several minutes looking at some electronics, things that I want for myself (make sure to go shopping with her on that special occasion day) and I make sure that she notices it. When she comes over and say, "Are you buying that?" I would say, "No, i was just looking to see what was new, but i dont want to spend money." Ill put it down and walk away. She will then say, "If you like, buy it.". Here's the secret guys, do not buy it. Instead, say, "its ok, i dont want to spend money." Then ask her,  "Are you buying those? Here give it to me, i will pay for it and we can go grab something to eat.". I will act like this for an entire year and then she will start to feel guilty about it and when she pushes you to get something nice for yourself, that's when you attack. Go get yourself a PS4 or whatever. But tell her, "I really like it, but im not sure if i want to spend money, even though it's the cheapest it ever been." Act like you're struggling about spending money. This my friend is where you will hit the jackpot.

The key is to be patience and be passive aggressive without her knowing that you are. You want her to feel guilty about stuff that she buy for herself without calling her out on it. If you play it right. You will get what you want without the nagging. But remember, you have to use this method responsibly, it can be overused and may lose its effectiveness.

Dude, that is so fucked up.

I'm assuming you and your wife make about the same? Otherwise, I see no reason to play such mind games.I make multiple times what my wife made when she was working, and I've never had to justify any of my purchases, and I constantly buy crazy shit I don't need.

Anyways ever tried using honesty instead of manipulation? That always works for me.

I have always made much more than my wife, but the rule of the house is that all money made belongs to the household so any significant expenditure is discussed by both and agreed... I never had to beg to buy a thing and she also doesn't need to fell like I'm paying up for her.