Angelus said:
Johnw1104 said:
While there are certainly women who could hurt me, in my experience thus far it's not particularly hard to just hold them at arms length while trying to speak some calm sense into the situation.
I think it depends on the circumstances, but generally the male is far more capable of extricating themselves from the situation without either party suffering serious injury than the female is. I'm having a hard time thinking of a circumstance where I'd punch a woman in the face, unless perhaps she's in arm's length and is some lunatic with a gun or something.
Otherwise, I'd just leave... I once had a seriously drunk girl at a bar accidentally burn me with her lit cigarette and when I informed her of this she spit on me (she was trashed and already quite angry for seemingly no reason); I won't lie, a part of me wanted to chuck her across the room at that point and it was probably the closest I've come to actually wanting to harm someone (not for the accidental burn but that she had the nerve to spit on me for warning her as she continued to drunkingly flail her cig hand about), but I kept calm, the bouncer threw her out despite her hilariously emotional protests, and about a minute later I was given a free beer and had a funny conversation about it while none of us were hurt (outside of my cigarette burn lol) or faced future legal issues.
It's just better to avoid hitting someone when you can, and very rarely with either gender are you left with no options.
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I've actually had pretty much that exact same thing happen to me, except instead of spitting at me, she threw her drink in my face.
But ya....just take a deep breath, and whoosah for a sec. You're pretty much never gonna be doing yourself a favor by punching a chick
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Yeah, that's always been my view on physical altercations 99% of the time... neither side wins regardless of how it ends. The challenge is holding back through the first 3 to 5 seconds after something truly outrageous occurs (like having some asshole spit on you or throw your drink on you); if you can navigate your way through those few seconds of rage, generally you're able to calm down and act rationally. If you give in to that spike of rage, you'll probably feel sick in a moment regardless of how it goes.
The way I look at it is that woman who may have been having a terribly day or just a hard life in general made it home unscathed to sleep off her hangover, and I made it home with only a minor annoyance of a burn and watched a movie with friends. Neither of us faced looming legal battles, medical bills, or had to get bailed out of jail.
In the end, a few seconds of frustrating restraint is by far preferable to the alternative almost every time... One quote I like to keep in the back of my mind is an observation from Marcus Aurelius where he asked: "How much greater are the consequences of anger than the cause?"
