I'm only toxic towards Nintendo. And Sony. And Microsoft and Steam and Nazis and Trump supporters and coconut and general idiocy and ignorance.
In Rocket League, the only online game I play, I'm always the first one to call out my mates when they're being disrespectful. I never get salty at my opponents or claim luck. I guess that's just my true nature.
If you demand respect or gratitude for your volunteer work, you're doing volunteering wrong.