trasharmdsister12 said:
I'd agree that some don't. But in my experience, many do. I'm not just talking about whether someone looks good or bad. I'm talking about the image one presents and what people gather from it on first glance. And maxing out 3 different dating apps every day for 3 years and getting 0 legitimate matches is evidence enough that looks still matter. But I could provide more if required. |
You missunderstood my point. I said people don't care. Care: feel concern or interest; attach importance to something. Of course people notice apperence. They notice and judge frequently and constantly. But that's not the source of feelings of anxiety; those feelings come from the belief that those opinions and judgements matter to you or the people making them. They don't. I encounter hundreds of people every day. I notice them, I may think well, I may think poorly. I may have laughed at the fellow who tripped, was impressed by the ripped dude who dominated my hockey game or thought the dude with the booger hanging from his nose looked ridiculous; but I don't care about any of them. I care about my wife, my kid, my parents, my family. I somewhat care about the opinions of my close friends or my boss. But no one should feel anxiety over how they are perceived beyond this, as the opinions don't really matter, and those people are too busy worrying about their own issues to give extensive thought to you.
