| Locknuts said: Hey everyone, I just though I'd give my opinion on homosexuality here and feel free to let me know if I fit the definition of 'homophobic'. I'm not religious in any way, in fact I'm agnostic. So I wouldn't dare use some doctrine to try to judge homosexual acts morally. Homosexuality, in most cases, is a consensual relationship that in no way violates the non-aggression principle. In a relationship between two or more people, this is key. Where it is not consensual, it is rape and therefore illegal. In fact the more I rationalise it, the more I fail to see a problem with homosexual relationships. So why then do I feel sick when I think of two men performing homosexual acts? I have rationalised it, jusified it morally and accepted it, but seriously the thought of two guys going at it really does make me nauseous. Being presented with gay imagary basically gives me the same feeling as being presented with images of beastiality. Two women? It's strange but not vomit inducing. But not great either. I'm also not into anal sex at all so that's probably got something to do with it (it makes my ass sore - kidding). I don't think this is something that I've been taught to find disgusting, I think it's built into me (born this way). None of this is a problem however, because gay people don't have sex in front of me, and I would usually have to go looking for gay imagery if I wanted it. I would call a lot of gay people I've met friends. Some came out later than others but nothing changed when they did. Incredibly nice people, all of them so far. So am I homophobic? |
Your reaction sounds a bit extreme. Things that we should learn to be disgusted are things that are wrong. Having sex with animal, child, close relative or someone who is not willing is wrong. Learning that and being disgusted by those things is a good thing.
However having such a strong reaction to something normal can be a problem. To others it should´t matter if you find gay imagery vomit inducing, scary, dull or anything, unless you blaim gay people (or others) for your problem and start to demand that gay couples should´t do any kissing or hugging in the public.
To think that anyone would be born with that kind of reaction is really silly. People learn things, things that they don´t even know they have learned. Something or most likely many different things (media, other people, gaming etc.) have made you to have such reaction.
About the anal thing, have you tried it (both ways)? If not, how do you know that you don´t like it? And no, enjoying or not enjoying to watch anal porn is not the same as actually enjoying or not enjoying the anal sex. Even if the thought of anal is disgusting to someone, that person might still enjoy it if that person tries it (a bit like if you are afraid to taste some food that you think looks/smells really bad).
Its a bit uncommon (to my knowledge) that someone doesn´t enjoy seeing two women kissing etc. if he is hetero sexual. Maybe its something else that you learned, that many others don´t learn. A guy who likes girls and sees two attractive girls kissing etc. usually likes it and might find the idea of those girls together quite hot, even if he is not involved in that imaginary scenario.
Sexual orientation is a scale instead of a simplyfied gay/straight option. It might be that you are for some amount also attracted to men and as you identify as hetero sexual, it creates a dilemma. It is a problem as you have been taught that hetero sexuals don´t like men. It might be that you think it is wrong for you to enjoy watching gay imagery as you still like women more and identify as hetero sexual and because of that it brings such a strong reaction?
Scientific studies have shown that homophobic people tend to, more often than others, be gay or bi. Their hate and extreme reactions comes from the fact that they don´t accept themselves. So maybe there is a little bit of homophobe in you, I don´t have the answer, but you might have it.
Also why seeing a man having sex with a woman is not disgusting for straight men, they are not supposed to like men so why need the man there at all? Why is that any different from not wanting to see a fat/skinny/white/black/something that you are not attracted to, having sex with something that you are attracted?
