Homosexuality

[vivster]

Jumpin said:

vivster said:

The fuck? Next thing you're telling me is that you can condition yourself to not be gay. It's called irrational for a reason. That means there is not logical reason to it.

And why should someone try to condition himself to like something he doesn't like? I don't like smoking but hell no will I try to condition myself to like it. What the fuck is it to you what someone likes and not?

I don't like interracial porn, should I fuck a black woman now to "heal" myself so I can be accepted by you? The fuck.

There is a rational explanation: you have a bit of internalized racism. It is probably no fault of your own, but through cultural conditioning. With hetero sexuality, it wouldn't be homophobic to not have an interest in gay porn if it is not out of disgust; it's simply because you don't have an interest in homosexual sex. On the other hand, if you like straight porn, but not if it deals with black people, then there's no other explanation other than racism.

I have a similar issue with overweight people, I do not like seeing them naked or having sex, and I feel a little disgusted doing so. But I can trace the reason for my feelings: and that was the culture I was raised in which was that fat = bad. Being fat was equial to being greedy and of low intelligence. That is internalized within me. While I know that upbringing is false, it is something stuck in my psyche.

But I didn't grow up in a racist culture (in fact, I thought racism was a myth until I was like 16 or 17) and so the idea of someone liking porn but not liking interracial relations almost seems ludicrous to me. Ludicrous on the same level of not liking relationships with people of different eye colours or different hair colours, or even because one is taller than the other. But I understand the reasoning behind it due to my similar situation dealing with overweight/fat people.

There is no problem with growing up and developing different likes. What I find attractive and what not is my deal and it doesn't have anything to do with certain tendencies.

There are a lot of things in women that I don't find attractive. Body weight, skin color, size of lips, hairstyle, hair color, the shape of genitals etc. I fail to see how that is wrong or something to be ashamed of. It's just superficial. I also don't like coconut.