Johnw1104 said:
My mother's been trying to bring it back for about half a century now... perhaps she has finally succeeded. |
I just had a coversation the other day about how wierd it is that 'cat' completely vanished, but 'chick' somehow stayed around. I mean it's been largely replaced by bitches, wich in turn is being replaced by hoes (....nice 'progresssion' there btw), but at least it's still universally known what is referred to when someone talks about a 'hot chick'.
monocle_layton said:
It's kind of hard to get off to anything when there's no connection whatsoever. After you're done, what the heck do you do? It just feels strange honestly. Simply being with someone you have a close connection with is better than watching two strangers banging or flashing themselves. |
My problem with most porn is that A) It's not realistic at all and B) no one looks like they're actually having fun. Sex, for me has always been playful and contained at lot of smiles, giggles and laughther during the foreplay stages of it. It also has always been intimate, wich a lot of porn really isn't. It's very clinical, in, out, in, out of whatever orifice they're going for at the time and no furter contact. No petting and strocking, no affection or appreciation for each other, no kissing, no actual pleasure or creativity. There's also the fact that most women in porn gat treated like slabs of meat to be exploited by men with giant cocks. Not something I'm into at all.
As for OP I'd say, don't stress, explore a little before you go all in. There's so many things you can do that can be a turn on that have nothing do with penetration. Kisses (in all sorts of places), playing with her boobs, handjobs, oral, dirty talk (wich does not neccissarily has to be 'porn talk' just tell each other what you want and like) or even just rubbing. Just find out what you and her like and play around a little bit. Get comfortable with each other in that way and then move on to the next step.
I can sympathisze with your fear of getting her pregnant, but condoms work, don't sweat it. Also the pill can be very uncompfortable for some women, while it's totally fine or even helpful for others. I know people who have become antsy and depressed due to being on a pill that didn't mesh with their unique body chemistry, others that hve gained 15kg out of nowhere and lost it as soon as they stopped taking it. Whatever you do, the pill will mess with your chemical balance since it basically simulates an ongoing cicle of pregnancy and miscarriage every month. Give it a try, but don't rely on it too much in case she feels uncomfortable with it.
