SpokenTruth said:
Louie said:
I know, that's why I said "de facto". You are exactly right, courts favor women because they think women are more able to provide care, while men are more able to provide a check. Still, isn't it a bit strange that feminists don't fight against this form of sexism and mysoginy? One could almost come to the conclusion that they don't want things to be fair ;) Basically, what we have here is Men's Rights Activists fighting against the very "sexism" you complain about while feminists (and you) defend it. Something is very wrong with that logic in my opinion. Actually, this is sexism against men and not against women. (But of course, feminists are quick to say "positive sexism!" when women are at an advantage, without actually fighting against that positive sexism).
And the reason many fathers do not contend custoday is because they know they won't get it. It's really easy: You ask your attorney for adivce and he starts laughing and tells you to forget about it. That's the unfortunate truth. If you know you're gonna lose the battle because the court system is biased there is a chance you won't even show up for it. It's beyond me how someone can spin this into "evil men opress women by forcing them into caregiver role".
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1. When your list of things to make better are already too long to handle, adding things to the list that work in the opposite direction don't make any sense. That's a Men's Rights stance that is logically flawed.
2. Fathers are actually now gaining custody at a rate at an equal rate. "There are now 2.2 million divorced women in the United States who do not have primary physical custody of their children, and an estimated 50 percent of fathers who seek such custody in a disputed divorce are granted it."
https://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/11/17/more-fathers-getting-custody-in-divorce/
Also:
- In 51 percent of custody cases, both parents agreed — on their own — that mom become the custodial parent.
- In 29 percent of custody cases, the decision was made without any third party involvement.
- In 11 percent of custody cases, the decision for mom to have custody was made during mediation.
- In 5 percent of custody cases, the issue was resolved after a custody evaluation.
- Only 4 percent of custody cases went to trial and of that 4 percent, only 1.5 percent completed custody litigation.
"In other words, 91 percent of child custody after divorce is decided with no interference from the family court system."
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/cathy-meyer/dispelling-the-myth-of-ge_b_1617115.html
"between 1996 and 2007, the percentage of divorce cases in which the mother got sole custody dropped from 60.4 to 45.7 percent while the percentage of equal shared custody cases, in just that decade, doubled from 15.8 to 30.5. And a recent survey by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers shows a rapid increase in mothers paying child support."
http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2014/05/men_s_rights_recognized_the_pro_father_evolution_of_divorce_and_paternity.html
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