| eva01beserk said: What do you consider fair? Child suport seems fair to me. Joint custudy would be ideal. The problem is amounts. Life time lamony is out of the cuestionto me. going in with your own house des not protect the house. Sorry but no. If she contributed nothing economically then she gets nothing at the end. Its the only thing I see as fair. I will suport my kid even after 18, but if she decided to leave, then she decided to not be financially depended on me. where I to cheat or run off, then yea it makes sense I pay for it. And again. We try to choose the best mate. But like some others have said, they sometimes completly change after marriege. something can happen along the way and she hates you. She can choose to not work after kids, even if you agreed before that she would always work. Nothing is certain. Even doing the right thing can get you screwed. |
It's not my opinion that matters, what matters is what you end up deciding when you talk to your lawyer. If your own property and wish to protect it, make sure it gets written up. I would offer to pay for her lawyer too, (if she can't afford one) its not all that expensive 1-2k fees is nothing when you're protecting 100k+ property. It's the price of doing business. Some girls don't like it when you tell them about a prenaptual agreement, but if you ran into one of those, let them go. After all, whatever you make together will be split up 50/50. Independent people who are educated are not looking for your money, they are looking for a good person to enjoy life with, but again, be honest and straight forward about what you want in a marrige upfront, that is what dating is about, getting to know the other person, not just screwing them.
About people changing after they get married, well that is true; however, one would hoped you had enough time to date that person, meet their family, talk to the mother and father, see how your future spouse was raised. Get invovled with the family and see how disfunctional they are, if they are a solid hardworking family, chances are those great qualities have been passed down to your future spouse.
http://time.com/money/4455829/marriage-good-for-couples-finances-tell-your-story/
