So I'm not having a child..

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ArchangelMadzz said:

LivingMetal said:

There is never a good time to have a kid, and you are never ready for it.  You make it work, you just do.  That's just the way it is.  Anything else is just inhuman.  As a parent of a 5 year old, I wish I had started having kids 20 years ago so I can spend that much more time with them.  There is always something else we can strive for in life and always make excuses to not have or care for a child.  And with that mindset, it doesn't matter whether or not that child is legally born because it carries through unless there is a change of heart. The true recipe for success is raising that child to be better than you, not what you personally and selffishly want in life.  Any good parent will put their child before themselves.  Otherwise, that parent or potential parent deserves the same neglect he or she is giving that child.

Of course there are good times to have a kid, you're never ready but there are better situations than others.

A 27 year old couple with their life sorted is better than a 16 year old schoolgirl having a kid with her weird 20 year old boyfriend. (hypothetically speaking).

This is not true.

Raising a child does not work that way. Yes, you can stop time, consider the child a simple variable and compare the circumstances and run with it. You cannot however stop time in real world and the child is not a simple variable but infinite. The optimal enviroment for raising a child cannot be subjectively defined. It is not uncommon that couples divorce and go their separate ways after a child is born. Some couples just cannot get over the troubles no matter how rosy their life was prior. What matters is what will happen after the child is born. Talk is cheap, actions count.