i wonder if it occurs to people that when you leave the responsibility for ensuring your safety to other people... as fallible human beings they may use that power over you to abuse you
its like the people who say "oh you're victim blaming if you tell women that they would be safer if they didn't get blackout drunk"
no... its that when that happens you forfeit what control you had over your safety to other people
and for the most part it'll be ok since most people are decent but unfortunately people can also be malevolent and abusive
and that applies to all people and groups of people... the capacity for abusing others is always there... and there's also the capacity for planning and conspiring against other people using sleight of hand and misdirection