dongo8 said:
I actually agree with Wyrdness. You say you're not defending him but in the same post you are basically saying it is her fault for getting blackout drunk. She made a mistake, one that she will obviously never repeat, but it does not excuse his actions in any way, shape or form. I was saying I would be the most proud person ever of her because of the way she handled the situation and made herself a symbol for others out there. NOT because she was in the situation in the first place. She made one of the worst decisions she will ever make her entire life, but what she got for it was more than just the typical walk of shame the next day after being blackout drunk. She got a mental scar, physical evidence of forceful penetration, distrust for her peers, and then got dragged through court and had to relive it.
She is handling this situation in a much more mature and better way than most, and the way you are approaching it is kind of like you are blaming her. This is the same thing as defending the idiot who put his hands on her, and it's just wrong. So yes, in a way you are certainly defending the guy for what he did simply because you do not agree with what the woman did. I wouldn't approve of my kids drinking, doing drugs, anything illegal, PERIOD. But if they ever made a mistake (which many are liable to do) like this and something like this happened to them, I would be horrified. But then to have them turn it around into something positive for everyone else to look to and to understand, and experience from without ever actually having the experience themselves is pretty damn heroic in my mind. So I am and would be extremely proud of my kid for handling this situation in such a way that others can learn from it, and draw courage to speak out from it.
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