| dongo8 said: This girl is amazing. The statement she made is so thought provoking and well put together. It's powerful, reading it sparks emotion and sympathy and empathy and just so much support for her. She recognizes she made a terrible decision drinking so much, but she also realizes that this NEVER should have happened. Empowering, and she just released a second statement today saying that she remains anonymous because she is EVERY WOMAN. Seriously, she needs to be given a superhero name or something, she is encouraging so many women to come forward with their stories and she is showing that it is not ok to be ashamed because of something someone else did to you. You deserve to be you. I would be the proudest friend, parent, brother, sister, relative, acquaintance EVER if I knew who this girl was. It's just amazing the way that she has approached this. Oh, and just an aside, this kids father and the judge are useless human beings. He should be in jail for 10+ for this crap, he would have known better if he was not entitled and he was raised correctly. |
I wouldn't. We have a tendency to make heroes people who fuck up (drinking so much that you pass out) and then make a big/"empowering" speech about it instead of people who are responsible adults and act properly all the time. If she were my daughter, I'd do anything to make sure she gets the support she needs and would try my best to also make sure she doesn't drink that much again, because so many other things could happen to her, including getting hurt/killed/ alcohol poisoing etc. It's much easier to release a statement than to stick to it. Actions speak louder than words.
And don't take this as victim blaming. It's 100% the rapist's fault. But I'm addressing specifically your point about being the proudest whatever. I wouldn't be ashamed of her if she were my daughter (we all make mistakes), but I would be more proud if another child simply behaved properly and didn't get themselves in trouble. Same as if my son went to a bar where dangerous people frequent and someone attacked him. I would support him but what he went though wouldn't make me more proud of him no matter what statement he released afterwards.
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In terms of her empowering other women to come out and share their story, I agree. It can be a great thing. Especially if men, too, share their stories about being raped by men and women, especially if their cases are treated with equal attention and not treated as a laughing matter.
More importantly, I hope it does not encourage more women to falsely accuse men (and women?) of rape for whatever reason and that when they do, they actually go to prison for trying to destroy one's life.
