pokoko said: Without commenting on which one is right or wrong (or neither) there is one example that always makes me chuckle. "He was at that seedy bar downtown and got stabbed. He really needs to stop hanging out with those people." -- Common sense. "She was at that seedy bar downtown and got raped. She really needs to stop hanging out with those people." -- Victim blaming. |
But you see, that isn't about the gender, it's about the act involved.
"She was at that seedy bar downtown and got stabbed. She really needs to stop hanging out with those people." -- Common sense.
"He was at that seedy bar downtown and got raped. He really needs to stop hanging out with those people." -- Victim blaming.
Of course, that's following YOUR assertion. I would describe both cases as victim blaming, but with rape being a worse case of victim blaming. Why? Because stabbing isn't an act of subjugation, it's an act of violence. Rape is an act of subjugation (which isn't to say that rape can't be violent - just that the intent with rape isn't generally violence).
On the topic in general, I would say that it's being misrepresented in the same way - confusing "not quite as bad" with "acceptable". Saying that all white people are criminals is wrong, just as saying all black people are criminals is wrong. But saying it about black people is worse, not because it's any more false, but because it perpetuates existing stereotypes and reinforces attitudes that harm the disadvantaged.
Besides which, most uses of the "reverse" cases are intended either as a way to demonstrate the hypocrisy of those who would use the "typical" cases, or as humour playing off the "typical" case being reversed. And the exceptions are usually said by the kinds of people who believe in "an eye for an eye" - it's being said as a kind of retribution.
On the other hand, most of the "typical" cases are being stated by people who are simply prejudiced/racist/etc. There are exceptions for that, too. And sometimes, it's considered acceptable to make those statements.
And incidentally, "I don't prefer skinny people" would be considered just as unacceptable as "I don't enjoy fat people" because they're both body-shaming. Saying that you personally find thinner or fatter people more attractive is fine, but saying that they are inherently less or more attractive would be unacceptable.
Also note that the last example, of "conservatives are stupid", would be considered unacceptable by the same people who say "liberals are stupid" (and usually throw around phrases like "libtard" - which really just demonstrates the stupidity of the person using the phrase, given that it's not even a clever portmanteau, and unoriginal to boot - note that this is about the specific people using these phrases, not conservatives in general).
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pokoko said:
That fact that there was no differentiating context given is the point. That is to say, even without that context, you made up your own rationalizations based entirely on your own agenda. You twisted the information given one way for one quote then twisted the information the other way for the other quote. You are the exact and real example of what I'm talking about. You apply your preconceptions right off the bat with no regard for the actual context you pretend to care about. Really, the only purpose was to show that being an idiot and a victim are by no means mutually exclusive, regardless of what type of victim, yet you're making up all these convoluted suppositions to support your own narratives. It's like those cartoons where the scientist builds an elaborate and expensive contraption just a crack and egg. Oh, and just a bit of reality, teenage girls and boys both are often drawn to dangerous areas and circumstances they've been warned about. |
The point Binary Solo is making is that people may use a knife to defend themselves - it is possible that the stabbing was done in self-defense. The stabbing could potentially be an unfortunate end result of someone doing something justifiable - defending themselves.
Can you think of any situation in which rape is justifiable?