sick of the concept that you need a lot of money to get married.
people get so focused and obsessed on the superficial parts of marriage. You don't need a thousand dollar cake, or a 10 thousand dollar dress, or a giant banquiet and catering to get married
if two people dig each other enough that they want to be together they can (and probably SHOULD) just run over to a local court and pay the 100$ fee or whatever to make it happen
I get wanting a nice thing with family and friends but you can do a small wedding in a backyard for gods sake and still have that sort of memories. People have this belief that money will make memories more powerful, like luxurious things. that's not the case. My sister got married not long ago next to a giant tree in front of her apartment. It was a great time
I suppose what I'm suggesting is- give her an ultimatum- if she really wants to get married (and you do too?) just run over to the court and get it done. No reason for the drama or complicatinos of claiming you can't afford a wedding. you have a fun party with family and friends and invite them all without having to necessarily involve the huge costs some put into things
what's a disturbing thing to me is that some family's will spend as much on a wedding as a house, or new car, or whatever else. It just seems to be in such poor taste.
I'm rambling but I suppose the simple answer to a simple question is that if you two want to get married it should have very little effect on you saving money or dealing with your kids.
I think the reality is you probably DON'T want to get married. simple as that
