Transgender or Adhering to Societies Definition of the Opposite Gender.

[CosmicSex]

Interesting commentary, but I believe that what OP is describing is how society defines being masculine vs effeminate. This is less about sexual orientation and more about behavior. We as a society parse these two behaviors across gender when gender is obviously something different. It is biology and more basic than society abstractly. Does a man, become more of a woman by societies standards if they are more less masculine? The answer is yes and these are the archetypes that determine gender roles. The perfect world that OP describes seeks to separate gender from gender roles.  A man doesn't feel the to reassign his gender strickly for the purpose of being more comfortably feminie.