| Teeqoz said: Internal motivation > external motivation. Raise your kid in such a way that he'll want to get good grades, not for a reward from you, or because he's afraid of being punished if he doesn't, but because it satisfies him to achieve good grades and use his potential. A kid should feel happy and satisfied when achieving good grades, not relieved for not being punished. Likewise, when a kid gets bad grades, he should feel dissapointed for not having done the best he can (presuming he didn't), not afraid because his dad will punish him. |
Internal motivation is most ideal but how they go about developing it is entirely dependent on themselves. I think the best way to control them is either by punishing them or by making them fear the circumstances without education ...
Failure's take so many things for granted (shelter, food, sanitation, free educations, etc) don't realize that their ticking time bombs that can't diffuse themselves fast enough when they ought to be treasuring whatever chances they have ...
