Branko2166 on 15 January 2016
| SuperNova said: It may look dodgy, especially seeing that she is an anti rape activist, but it's very possible that this is exactly what happened. I know people who have been raped and in none of those cases was it a total stranger. They were all friends or acquaintances. In one case a very long time friend. This lines up with general rape statistics as well. No, kissing and getting into a shower with someone is not an invitation for sex or implied consent. Also it doesn't matter if the other peron is a stranger, friend, partner or spouse. It is consent to a shower, nothing more, nothing less. Also, to the people saying it's unthinkable for someone to share a shower and not want to have sex, it's not. I've done it many times, for various reasons. I would have been horrified if one of my partners had tried to force themselves on me. Maybe she just wanted to get clean and it seemed practical at the time, maybe she had a certain innocence and level of trust about sharing a shower with this person, maybe she wanted the comfort and intimacy of a shared shower, but in no way wanted sex. And even if she might have wanted sex before things got serious and changed her mind, that's her right. People are allowed to change their minds, that does not give you permission to rape them. Simple rule, if someone says 'No', stop. If someone seems uncomfortable , not into it, or in pain, stop and ask them if they're all right and if you should stop. That should not be too much to ask of anyone you're sharing that level of intimacy with. |
I respectfully disagree that under the scenario you describe, sex is not implied. People are not mind readers and can only go by signals, body language and or words. With that said, I do agree that if at any point she said no or stop then it should have been the end of the act.
As things stand though it is best not to speculate until the investigation is done and the facts of the matter come to light.
