| DonFerrari said: I think you answered yourself... we have to address both sides, the agressor (that we don't have direct power over it, but as a society need to fight) and the victm (that we have more power, being ourselves or people close to us)... and until we give the idea that all the blame and bad is fault of the aggressor and don't teach responsibility to our kids they will expose more to danger. I'm not at fault when I get robbed, but If I go to a very violent neighbourhood with a convertible Mercedes-Benz and get assalted I'm partially to blame for putting myself in danger. |
True, though (and this is admittedly largely semantics) I do think it's impotant to set the distinction that all the 'bad,' (basically, malicious or ill intent,) is the fault of the aggressor. :/ In essense, while I think it is vital to educate people in how to best avoid putting themselves in situation of overt danger or risk, the actual responsibility for the act itself should remain firmly in the hands of the person carrying said act out. I.E. 'There are really, REALLY shitty people out there, and there's not much, if anything, you can do to dissuade them from doing shitty things to you.'
This is partly because as I said before, it's inherently difficult to predict if someone you've never before met might mean you harm, and constant vigilence is something I find pretty vital, even if it's something as simple as not letting yourself drift off to sleep in an exposed venue. Especially given there are acts of violence that can genuinely be causeless, to the point of nonsensical, the lesson should be made that '...and even if you do ALL this stuff I just said... honestly, something bad might still happen, and if it does, it's not your fault, and you should know that you can tell me ANYTHING and we'll work through it together.'
Just because you're more likely to be assaulted in a violent neighborhood with your Mercedes-Benz doesn't mean you might not still get jumped in an otherwise safe region... the difference being that in the violent neighborhood, you might take even the basic precaution of not daudling about, and locking your doors while rolling up your windows, while in the safer region you do none of these things and are in fact even more easily assaulted as a result. =P
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