Weren't you the guy with the lady on the train thread? Factoring both threads in, it pretty much looks like your sense of humor relies upon making the lives and emotional state of those around you markedly worse for your own gratification. Whether it's making a stranger uncomfortable 'for lulz' or trashing your relative's self-esteem, again, 'for lulz.' You might want to consider just NOT trying to do this kind of stuff anymore, because you clearly have no sense of how to do it properly.
And come on. You must have known it was going to hurt him, just like you knew your behavior on that train was going to make the woman uncomfortable. That's what was going to make it so funny, right, the 'gotcha?' and the look on his face when he found out? I honestly can't believe anyone is such an idiot that they wouldn't see the kind of harm this was going to cause, and people who pull stuff like this are AIMING to cause harm because, again, 'lulz.'
Maybe you weren't expecting it to be the last straw, for the pain to stick with him like this, but are you really claiming you were going into this thinking 'Oh, he'll find it HILARIOUS when he realizes we went to all this trouble to crush his hopes and dreams.' You knew the revelation would leave him hurt, angry... but you figured he'd still 'get over it' and keep you around, because like you said, he's a nice guy and he's kept you around before.
If his parents are relaying messages to you, then clearly he's still talking to them; that's a good enough sign as far as his well-being goes, as I'd be more concerned if he was closing out everyone else. Him not talking to you specifically is both expected, and frankly the right thing to do. Let him decide when, how and where he gets back in touch with you. If he never wants to deal with you again, accept that you screwed up and let him. He's definitely earned the right to expel you from his life, and he owes you not a damn thing. Because even if he 'forgives' you, I doubt he is ever going to truly trust you, let alone look on you with any real affection. At best, he'll tolerate you, probably because he'll figure out he'll eventually have to deal with you at family gatherings and such.
Finally, IF he takes you back? The joking ends. All of it. Don't needle him over his shyness, tease him over his girl troubles, NONE of it. You treat him with the utmost respect, and you kick Tom's ass if he tries any of that needling shit, because if you even lightly hint at the shit you did here, or imply that he doesn't have a girlfriend it's going to be like twisting a knife in his gut... at which point I'd sincerely hope he drops you for good.
So, yeah. I don't think you're going to find a lot of sympathy here. Frankly, be great if your cousin would join the site, we'd all give him a mighty warm welcome and commiserate with him on what an ass you were. =P
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