sc94597 said:
Aparently the parent wasn't "pro-active" enough, his daughter comitted suicide. I disagree though. This parent was reactive, his child did something wrong and he punished her for it AFTER the fact. He didn't teach her not to do said thing in the first place (saying something isn't the same thing as teaching.) At the point of a teenager though, parenting becomes more than pro-active and reactive. This is long after a child starts making ethic-based decisions of their own, and a parent must direct said ethical beliefs, not try to solely impose their own through enforcement. Understanding why something can be bad is more important than understanding that it is bad, especially the way many parents try to make things black-and-white bad vs. good and children are smart enough to understand that nothing is entirely bad nor good. |
just because you teach a child something is wrong doesn't mean they'll lose their free will and never do it again
if they indeed decide to repeat the behavior to reinforce the idea people punish their children
if it was that easy no one would ever do anything bad after a certain age
"Understanding why something can be bad is more important than understanding that it is bad"
i'd argue that most of the time when people ( young or old ) do bad things that they acknowledge that they are bad and simply put their own interests ahead of their "moral" compass
when people do these things and they impact negatively on others and on self we have systems in place to punish them reactively
