zelmusario said:
sc94597 said:
Well I am kind of in a open-relationship right now. The person I'm with thinks of the other encounters he and I have mostly as sexual and friendly rather than romantic, and also holds such negative beliefs with regards to polyamory/polygamy (which we both agree requires romantic involvement with more than one.) I think most gays have similar beliefs, at least the ones I've spoken with. They can imagine having sex with multiple people at once, but not being romantically involved with multiple people at once, if that makes sense.
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Well, yeah and I probably misled you here. Although we haven't explored it yet, I would totally be open to my partner and I having sexual encounters with others TOGETHER (like it sounds like you and your partner/bf do), but wouldn't be ok being in a romantic relationship with 2 other people. We can both be jealous bitches and I think it'd be too messy emotionally.  I also don't think I'd be ok with either my partner or I having sexual encounters with others that we aren't both involved in and I know he feels the same way. In other words, we play together or not at all. lol
I will say that I'm open to considering other options later on in life and my views aren't set in stone. As long as you have that foundation of love, respect, honesty and committment, I think you can make any kind of relationship work.
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I used to feel jealousy about it, but the more we've done it, the less jealous I feel. I do get more jealous if he is with somebody and I not, but even then it has become less of an issue. I realize that most of my jealousy comes from a fear of losing out on our interactions than comparing myself to the other person. In a polyamory or polygamy this would be less of a fear because you are agreeing with everyone that it is the three (or more) of you, and that is how you want it. At least, that is how I would imagine it would work. When everyone cares about everyone else (I've noticed with our threesomes) jealousy becomes much less of an issue as we are happy to see the other two enjoy eachother and we know that we will likewise get that enjoyment without losing anything.
