zelmusario said:
sc94597 said:
A while back I was reading the book "The Moon is a Harsh Mistress" by Robert Heinlein for probably the third time. In that book there is a particularly interesting group marriage (which also was a line marriage I think) that had a head husband and a head wife. I was trying to explain it to two of my friends who are gay (like myself) and they just blew polygamy off as patriarchs marrying young girls and that it could never work out and we should not associate with polygamists NOR polyamorists. I've since asked many people gay, straight, bisexual, etc alike and they also have similar opinions on it. It didn't matter if they were religions or irreligious, they hold said beliefs. Its interesting seeing the responses here are so positive. I see myself living a very single life, but I can also see myself in a polygamous group marriage where you have the freedom expressed in The Moon is a Harsh Mistress. It just baffles me how people who are part of groups that were told they couldn't marry or discriminated against because of their relationship choices feel like they should do that to others, most of all. |
That's so weird, since my experience has been so different from yours. Many of my gay friends are in open relationships where they're emotionally committed to each other, but explore other partners sexually. Full consent between both parties exists and everyone seems like they're happy, at least on the surface. I guess it surprises me since I don't know anyone in a 3-way relationship, but I would think that the LGBT crowd would be open to polygamy/polyamory more readily than others.
I think as long as everyone consents than live and let live. I don't claim to fully understand or identify with these concepts and I don't think I could ever be a part of a polygamous/polyamorous relationship, but that doesn't mean others can't.
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Well I am kind of in a open-relationship right now. The person I'm with thinks of the other encounters he and I have mostly as sexual and friendly rather than romantic, and also holds such negative beliefs with regards to polyamory/polygamy (which we both agree requires romantic involvement with more than one.) I think most gays have similar beliefs, at least the ones I've spoken with. They can imagine having sex with multiple people at once, but not being romantically involved with multiple people at once, if that makes sense.
