The Romantic Advice Thread

[Mr Khan]

starcraft said:

Mr Khan said:

Casual night dates, then?

Gah, such strange rules.

I've not read every post, but it seems the problem is too many rules.

There really is such a thing as being timed out of the game. Sure there are exceptions, but generally if it drags on too long, any sort of romantic spark will become impossible.

Plus, it seems to be stressing you enormously, which is never good. I think its clear you need to have a night out that cannot possibly be construed as anything other than a date - or a situation where you're clearly broadcasting romantic intent. If it doesn't go well, that'd suck, but it would be sorted, you really would learn from what you did well, and what you didn't. And there will be other women

Stress is the wrong word. It leaves me with a vague feeling that something's missing, it only stresses me when i'm within fifty feet of her (not being serious here, got over that one a while ago).

Time i thought was only a problem if a friendship developed before romance itself could, then it's really hard to get out of the friendzone? The fix there is that i've really tried to push my angle with her. Not too blatantly, but i'd been pushing for some one on one time for over a month before i got that coffee, then had a flub with putting her number in my phone which led to an expression of keen interest in getting the number. A few texts, then i fell off in a major way over Christmas, no contact for weeks, deliberately on my end.

So i'm just kind of rebuilding rapport here.