fkusumot on 13 April 2008
It's like asking if Bryant Gumbel is black.
Anyways, CaptainPreferences, to me it sounds like you're being shamed for who are. People do that to other people to put themselves in a one-up position above you. If you can learn to set boundaries on what you take in and what you let go away it will help. But it won't be easy. Right now you're letting other people define what you are with your resentment and confusion. It doesn't matter what other people say you are if you can let it go. If you take it in and try to fight it the racial put-downs will damage you and cause pain, shame and resentment. I wish you the best in working it out.
