The Romantic Advice Thread

[Troll_Whisperer]

Mr Khan said:

1. It was pretty quiet. Place wasn't completely empty, but close to it (I chose it for lunchtime, specifically, because it's a place that's more out of the way. When she pushed it back from Wednesday lunch to Thursday at 2pm, i didn't think to adjust, but the relative aloneness didn't feel uncomfortable). Aside from the coffee thing i didn't observe much about body language. For my part i was focused on keeping eye contact (as i have a bad habit of not looking at the person i'm talking to if i'm not thinking about looking at them), and she also kept eye contact relatively well, that's about it.

2. More or less. She didn't take her coat off, though did unbutton it at one point, but she had her coat on when i met her in the student lounge (she was, actually, napping in it), so it seems she just likes to wear it inside. Wasn't that heavy of a coat.

3. Yes, though neither of us went into "humorous anecdotes" territory, she laughed gently at appropriate moments.

4. No, there's a lot i've wanted to find out about her, so the conversation flowed naturally as i linked one thread to the next. I wasn't "grilling" her or anything, though, just trying to get her to talk about herself a bit.

5. Not to my knowledge? I know that's supposed to be a positive indicator, but again, i was more focused on eye contact.

6. Normal-ish. I asked late in the game when we were headed in different directions, so wasn't that close to her to observe her reaction. There didn't seem to be any reluctance, and a girl i was talking to about it later (one of my many advice dispensors) said getting it was a good sign, because girls won't hesitate to NOT give it if they don't, in fact, want to.

I think it's all fairly clear at this point that there's *something* going on here, unless she's waaay oblivious and just thinks i'm being platonically friendly.

That sounds all good! Well, except the coat thing, I don't know what you're trying to read there XD I meant comfortable with you, not as in "was she cold", lol. But yeah, sounds good.

BTW, did you get her number on FB?

About her thinking it's just a platonic thing, don't discard the possibility, it could well be. Because, you know, men and women hang out and have coffee without it meaning anything all the time. She's not going to automatically assume something's on or that you like her. So unless either of you gave signs in the other direction, you still have work to do. But it was a big step and at least it's going smoothly.