The Romantic Advice Thread

[Mr Khan]

NiKKoM said:

Mr Khan said:

I thought she *wasn't* analyzing everything i said or did?

That seemed to be what you all have been telling me throughout this thread.

The last message you send.. Thats was a message to analyse.. I don't even understand why you would send it right then at that moment. She'll analyze it 100%. "hey i helped you with a suggestion now you and me are getting coffee.. Together".. The reason why we said to keep it lighter and casual was to prevent it from becoming a big deal for her. Now you kinda pushed coffee into a big deal by asking it the way you asked..

She probably doesn't know what to think of you.. Yet.. It happens.. Some women need time to start liking a guy.. You met her 2 months ago, and you know more about her but that doesn't mean she knows anything about you.. 

:-/

Seems to be more misunderstanding here. I thought moving quickly was the point. Not overplaying my hand, stating that i'm head-over-heels for her or anything, but demonstrating that i am interested in getting to know her, specifically, in a one-on-one setting. Clear intentions without going too far in my aims or emotional presentation. That if you let these things go on for months without clarifying your intentions, you get friendzoned and there goes the neighborhood.

Without stating as much, i'm signaling "I am attracted to you and would like a chance to get to know you a little better to see if we are compatible."

Is it really supposed to be more complicated than that? I mean, one of my primary goals here has been to avoid putting any kind of pressure on her while still not being so subtle that i won't get noticed. No games, no gimmicks.