The Romantic Advice Thread

[Mr Khan]

Troll_Whisperer said:

Mr Khan said:

Good advice.

The key is that you really can't ask her when she's talking with a bunch of other people, or one other person. It's been hard to "isolate" her (which makes it sound like i'm stalking her, but is it really appropriate to put her on the spot in the former situation?)

If she's talking with people you don't personally know or talk to, I'd say it's still OK to ask her out. The others would probably just assume you're closer to her than to them and shrug it off.

Go to group, say "hey (name), sorry to interrupt, wanna grab some coffee after class? Cool thanks, see you later / maybe next time" or if you go with plan B "hey (name), sorry to interrupt, me and my friends are having a (event) on (convenient day), wanna join us? Cool thanks / no problem, next time".

Think if you were talking to someone and you were briefly interrupted by someone you barely know who has this kind of exchange with that someone. I don't think you'd think much of it.

Otherwise, plan B within plan B is Facebook events... Easy to invite people without resorting to private messages.

Haven't really thought about it like that.

I suppose it's as much my fear of being rejected in front of other people (that if i'm going to get shot down, none should witness it) which hamstrings me there, and that i was just making up excuses as to why it would be inappropriate on the other side.

So long as it was indeed a casual ask-out, anyway.