Pristine20 said:
reggin_bolas said:
Pristine20 said:
Porcupine_I said:
curl-6 said:
This is a sad reminder of just how powerful and dangerous misogyny and sexism still is in today's world.
This man was a product of a society that promotes the belief that a man is entitled to sex and attention from women; a society that says that a man's worth is determined by sexual conquests and violence/domination. Since he couldn't achieve the former, he resorted to the latter.
An excerpt from his manifesto, which you can read here: http://www.scribd.com/doc/225936731/Untitled
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Seems like he'd be right at home with the taliban or something. Talking about taking away the rights of others because they don't want him. It's always funny to hear guys complain about girls who reject them when they themselves won't date every girl. The whole time, he was crying about blondes. How many blondes are there? Perhaps if he had just being a little less shallow, he'd have found plenty of girls who were attracted to him.
I made similar mistakes in undergrad when looking for relationships. I was always going after the "it" girls when I really had nothing to offer them. Good thing I have omega thick skin and I'm not entitled so I simply reevaluated my life and approach afterwards. Through graduate school, I sat back and paid more attention only to realize that there were plenty of girls who wanted me too. I was just ignoring them. I'll bet good money that this was his number one problem.
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Well that's pretty much summarizes it. You just have to curve your expectations and work on your approach. If we assume that human physical attractiveness can be measured on a scale of 1 to 10 where 1 is the lowest and 10 is the highest then most people will fall in the 5 range. If you are a 5 you should be dating within your attractiveness range. Most people do. It's rare to find a couple where one is disproportionately ugly or pretty in relation to the other. When you do see this there are often ulterior motives such as monetary gain.
If I were to rate the killer, and this is all subjective, I'd place him anywhere from 5-6 to 6-7 at the high end. Sounds like he was going for girls who were in the upper crust, the 7-8s or 8-9's. This doesn't work. Girls are usually aware of how attractive they perceive themselves to be and more importantly how OTHERS perceive them. People don't look for mates who they perceive the be less attractive than they are. It's not being shallow, it's being real about what you want in a partner.
Physical attractiveness is the founding blocks of any relationship. Emotional attachments and other compatibiity factors come second.
So I commend you Pristine20 for finally realizing you were being unrealistic with your expectations.
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I dont think it's that simple actually. Plenty of ugly guys with much prettier girls. I think it comes down to what can I offer in a relationship to this person who I want to be my partner. People always think of relationships in terms of what they can receive without ever thinking of what they can give. An ugly guy who is extremely funny might be providing a much prettier girl entertainment while a very rich guiy may be providing a much poorer prettier girl with access to wealth (this is very common). He seems like he was trying to use his wealth to gain girls who may already be wealthier than him....not a recipe for success.
Should've worked on other aspects of himeself, joined groups of people who shared similar hobbies so his potential partner would have someone to relate to, etc.
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I'm afraid I don't agree. The above is basically myth; you have to some kind of physical compatibility or you won't have a romantic/sexual relationship. I can explain the varience you might have observed in real life. Yes, it does appear that sometimes ugly guys are with pretty girls. For one, it could be that the guy is just fat and the girl is not. It's common for both men and women to gain weight after they've been dating for so many months or years. Just because a guy is fat doesn't mean he wasn't attractive at one point.
Further, guys tend to care less about their appearance in public; girls are the polar opposite. This might also explain some varience but for the most part couples are physically matched. You may have some deviations but they are small like a 5 dating a 6-7. You rarely see a 5 dating a 10 for example. This is social law.
