My wife is from St Louis MO and I'm from England. We both had to spend our own money to meet each other. She came over to see me first, but I still also paid to go out and see her.
Ignore people saying don't do long distance/don't pay money. If you think it's worth it, take a chance. However also be sensible. I'd know my wife 5+ years before I actually met her in person. We were very close and very good friends already.








